Forgiveness. Something I have to actively work towards every single day. I’m going to be really honest here for a second and let y’all know that there have definitely been times where I may or may not have hoped that karma gives whoever hurt me a swift kick in the rear, but I know that ultimately, revenge or whatever you want to call it, won’t heal my wounds. Time and time again, God has shown me that the only way I can truly heal from these wounds is to forgive those who hurt me. My pastor at my church said something that really resonated with me a few weeks ago. He said that in order to heal from the pain, we have to really feel it. We can’t numb it, although believe you me I have tried. It’s really easy for me to push my feelings away if it hurts too much, but that’s not the healthy thing to do. I am positive I’m not the first person in the world to come to this realization nor will I be the last. There is one thing that has truly helped me to forgive those who have hurt me, and that has been prayer.
Here’s the thing. I do not believe that the devil is ever in control of our actions directly, just as I believe that God has given us free will. I do believe that both will try to lead us to taking the actions that they want. However, one is for His glory and the other is for our own sin. The times in my life where I have been hurt the most by both my own actions and the actions of the ones whom I love have been when I have strayed from the path God has created for me.
This morning I decided just to open my Bible and see where I landed, and it was Isaiah 43:18-19.
“Do not remember the past events, pay no attention to things of old. Look, I am about to do something new; even now it is coming. Do you not see it? Indeed, I will make a way in the wilderness, rivers in the desert.”
I felt that really spoke to me because I often feel guilt or shame for events where I acted out of anger or lust or jealousy. And honestly, I shouldn’t feel great that I responded in any way other than love, but I DEFINITELY shouldn’t beat myself up about it. Cause guess what? I’m human and so are you! We are imperfect, but we are forgiven because of His Perfect Love. Does that mean that it’s ok to stay stuck in toxic patterns and relationships because we’re always Loved? No, absolutely not. But we ARE allowed to give ourselves grace and give it to God.
I personally spend too much energy stuck in things of the past. But here’s one of the great things about God, He makes me new each and every day. I just have to accept the grace that is right there in front of me. This one verse has shown up time and time again in the past few months so I figured I’d share it with y’all!
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17
L I T E R A L L Y all I have to do when I wake up in the morning is accept that it’s a new day, and I am made new. Honestly, if I wanted to, I could ask to be made new at any point during my day, and I can restart in Christ.
It kind of reminds me how when I was little, my mom used to ask me if I wanted to start the day over whenever I was having a crappy day. In the same way that she forgave me for being a brat, God forgives us for being brats, too. If I am to become more like Jesus, then I need to follow His lead, and let sh*t go. It’s easier said than done, but it is true that suffering is, for the most part, in our minds. The more energy we spend in our pain, the less we can spend on growing through it. The person who hurt you for sure isn’t spending as much time replaying that conversation in their head, if at all, so why should you?
What I’m trying to get across is that your feelings are ALWAYS valid, and they are ALWAYS temporary. We all have the power to feel, acknowledge, and then RELEASE our pain. We have the power to forgive those who hurt us and more importantly, to forgive ourselves. It is SO true that the only way out is through. It’s not going to be easy, but it IS going to be WORTH IT!
In order to fully receive peace and healing, we need to forgive. You need to take a deep breath, say a little prayer, and let that sh*t go, babe!
Keep picking those daisies!